A few years ago, I started looking for ways to replace my income and doing business online seemed like the best option. My husband and I had a prosperous 9-5 business that went downhill when our sole supervisor’s life fell apart (family member–ugh!). Note to self: spread the management level to others in the organization and don’t put all of your eggs in the family basket!
Other than a desire to work online and from the comfort of my home office, I had no idea where my passions would take me. With all of the modern-day technology available, you can Skype, text, email and keep in touch all throughout the day if necessary.
Relationship Coaching is my passion and I have been wanting to help others for a very long time. So, one day a man I had been in contact with over the years got me started learning step-by-step and day-by-day to grow my online business (a coach).
Here is a brief account of my journey from where I was several years ago to where I am today:
I was married for 18 1/2 years in a mentally abusive relationship with my former husband. The funny thing is that you don’t know it is mentally abusive until someone or a group of people finally tell you. You are too close to the situation to realize that something is just not right. For me, I felt that what I was experiencing in a normal (albeit not quite right) relationship. As couples we have our ups and downs, good days, bad days and times when you just want to throw in the towel.
After discovering an unbelievable amount of information (again, through the love and concern of my brothers and sister), the light was finally shed on what had been happening for several years. And, of course, once the gate opened, it was a flood.
You think to yourself: How could I have been so blind? How could I have stayed in this type of relationship? Why did I not leave sooner? You want to blame yourself but realize that there was probably not much you could have done to save this particular type of sick relationship. I realized I was married to Dr. Jekyll AND Mr. Hyde.
Fast forward to six years after my divorce and I meet my second husband. Fairy tale setting and relationship meeting on an airplane. (Long story). I have been happily married to my current husband for almost ten years and we are best friends and have never been happier. This is not to say that we have had a perfect marriage. Every marriage has its bumps in the road.
Does God put you through pain so that you can experience all of the pleasures later and really appreciate them? I don’t know. What I do know is that a lot of relationships are worth saving. Sometimes people are in that situation I found myself in where I should not have stayed but did. Those types of relationships have deep rooted problems and if the person who is the source of the anguish does not fix themselves, there will be no hope for a lasting relationship.
My passion is fixing relationships. A happy relationship is the key to life. When you are in sync with your partner, life just seems that much better. And, when you can call your partner your best friend, you have achieved what every person on Earth wants: a loving, happy, caring relationship to share with that someone special. An unconditional relationship is the pinnacle of relationships: agape love.
I really poured myself into learning everything I could about Relationships and all of the issues surrounding relationships. I think one of my biggest eye-openers was when I was studying a module on weight loss. I thought, “What on earth does weight loss have to do with a relationship?” Low and behold I could not have been any more wrong! My first client had a weight issue and it affected her relationship with her husband because of the way he felt about her weight! Never again would I question anything that I was taught because it appears everything ties back to a relationship in one way or another.
I consistently read, learn and seek out the best information available to help me in assisting my clients. I have a coach myself. Having someone Coach you is a great way to help you find your way to your partner if you think Relationship Coaching will assist you in mending your relationship. Let’s put it this way, does a football player go out on the field and just play great? Absolutely not. He is coached by an Offense Coach, a Defensive Coach, a Kicking Coach or whatever his specialty happens to be.
Do you go through life without seeking the advice of trusted friends or loved ones? Do you leave your finances to chance or trust a financial advisor?
I wanted to play the piano…correctly. Did I try it on my own? Absolutely not! I sought out the best piano instructor I could find.
There is a lot of confusion about what Relationship Coaching is really all about. You have to be able to rely on someone who can help you see through that forest. You need the help of a coach or an instructor to help you through those problems and those times when you just don’t know or can’t find the solution.
Relationship Coaching has been a great amount of work but, at the same time, a lot of fun. My goal is to help as many couples as I can to avoid the pain of breaking up and starting over. A lot of people think that this is the easy way out. It is not. With a failed marriage comes all of the unfortunate trauma that goes along with it and to think that it will be “better the next time around” is a great myth. If you are the problem and you haven’t changed those bad behaviors, what made it not work the first time will still be in play when you try to make it work the second time, and the third time, and the ….
I was one of the lucky ones. Between my current husband and myself, we were the ones who were lucky to get out of extremely abusive marriages and go on to have the relationship we do today. We have been best friends from the start. We love spending time with each other and do most everything together. Isn’t that what being in a relationship is all about? Two individuals who come together to share one heart, one mind?
Do you have that feeling of wanting to do something else but don’t know what it is? If you feel your relationship is worth saving, want to take it to the next level or make drastic improvements or changes in yourself, please contact me.
Let me know how I can help!
